The Beginning...

The Beginning...

Monday, February 14, 2011

Valumtimes Day

SO this is something that Mr. Sollywood wrote many years ago (before we met) about Valumtimes Day:

"What an annoying holiday this is. No historical significance or religious, national or patriotic. Everyone runs around frothing, proclaiming their love and pledging their eternal allegiance to one another. It makes me sick. If someone truly cared about you, I think you'd hear it more often than once a year, presented with a heart shaped cardboard box filled with cheap chocolates made with oils and lard and a card picked up for $2.95. This will supposedly cover all wrongs and faults in the relationship with one fell swoop, leaving the giver allieved of all sins committed within the past year. I want someone to tell me if I'm loved of their own volition, not because some fabricated greeting card holiday sponsored by Hallmark compels them.
When was the last time you wanted someone to feel they are forcibly handing you a gift? How many out there feel like their relationship is doomed if they don't get that rose and box of chocolates for their significant other? Wow, what a pivotal moment in life this day is. I mean, everyone loves getting gifts. But it's getting a gift that really, really means something that touches the heart. More often than not, the gift that you get on this day of sick public displays of affection are nothing more than a little something to say you've upheld your end of the bargain and have fulfilled your duties.
Nothing says i love you like mass produced fabrication and unbridled conformity.
its bad enough Christmas has become so commercial but at least at its core it's something worth celebrating. I'm not getting into a Christmas origin thing here. its all good though. But valentines day is simply something mass marketed so that corporations can once again fill their coffers for that slump between Christmases.
So remember when you're sitting there with your supposed loved one over a nice candle lit dinner, holding that small stuffed bear that cost 20 dollars and the lives of countless China-men, that you're only there out of obligation to support and excuse the lack of affection and consideration throughout the rest of year. Pay your dues on February 14th so you can relax the rest of the year.
If you're going to give gifts, flowers and all that other junk then do it often and sincerely, not because you're told to do it on Valentines day.
this is the end of my valentines day rant. i'll be in my room with my guitar if you need me."

hahahah Which I completely agree with. You should demonstrate sincere and copious amounts of love to your significant other everyday. But can you sense the bitterness in there? In some ways, I'll have you know, he has changed his tune. For example today I had to work early this morning so I snuck out of bed to shower and not wake him. And he sleepily stumbles into the bathroom and opens the shower door and mumbles 'Happy Valentines Day my love', gives me a kiss and goes falls back into bed. No roses, no cheap chocolate and because he works tonight no candle lite dinner. But for him to be coherent enough in the morning to realise it is valentines day and to drag himself out of bed to wish me a happy one... well that is a valentines day miracle and the greatest demonstration of love he could have offered me.
So to my Mr. Sollywood 'Happy Valentines Day my love.' And to everyone else, I hope that you get love and appriciation everyday not just today.

1 comment:

  1. Loved the whole post and feel that I'm in agreement with it. Love should definitely be declared without coercion, every day!

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